See if you recognize any of these thoughts:
‘why does this always happen to me?’
‘no matter what I do I can’t seem to get ahead’
‘its not my fault this is happening’
Your car is breaking down, work isn’t going well, your baby isn’t sleeping
– just general life things that seem to all happen at the same time, can
lead you to certain questions. I Know myself, if I’m not careful I can fall
into a victim mentality.
When I do, I start asking these questions – which are full of self-pity and
frankly are totally dis-empowering – because it puts me in a position that
starts to believe nothing in life is in my control and I’m helpless.
Which is completely not true. As a child of God, you are ‘beautifully and
The truth is, when ‘things’ happen – your fridge breaks down, you have
an argument with a loved one or something really tragic occurs – you
have a choice in how you respond.
So what if, instead of responding as a victim, you flip the question?
You are only going to receive as good of an answer as your question is.
So instead of ‘why is this happening to me?’ ask something more
empowering, such as: ‘what am I meant to learn through this? What are
you trying to teach me right now?’ ‘what is it that I have to be
transformed or healed in this area?’.
Living in peace is not something that automatically happens – every day
life will give you the opportunity to respond with frustration, fear, worry –
and to feel like a victim to your circumstance.
But I’m here to remind you, as a child of God – you have a royal heritage
– full of honor, grace, wisdom and peace. Lean into that.
In John 14:27 it says Peace I leave with you; my peace I give you. I do
not give to you as the world gives. Do not let your hearts be troubled and
do not be afraid.
No matter what is happening today – heres’ one suggestion for you:
Ask empowering questions.
This will help you remember who you are, who you belong to and who you are called to be.
Rachel Reva is a publicity strategist, published author of ‘Grit, Grace and Hustle: A faith gal’s guide to authentic success’ and founder of the coaching and consulting company Life On Her Terms Media. You can hear Rachel’s coaching inspiration series Coffee and Faith every Tuesday on Rhema 99.7FM.